My kids are growing up. This is something I wished for when they were toddlers. Now, I see those chubby little explorers who are filled with the exuberance of life, and I sigh. They are so precious, cute, and full of happiness. As an added bonus, toddlers still go for naps!
This past Monday my youngest (who is almost 7) climbed onto my lap for a cuddle while we were watching a movie. I thought at that moment, “This is what I am thankful for today!” I know those snuggles aren’t going to be coming for that much longer. Time has a way of passing way too quickly. These 7 years have passed in the blink of an eye, and I know the next 7 years will pass just as quickly, if not quicker.
Generally, I do not think that boys tend to snuggle as long as girls do. Hopefully I am wrong on this, for I love to have my kids on my lap and hug them tight. Even though there are times when they drive me crazy, I love them madly and those precious moments are becoming fewer and farther between. So, I seized the moment, cuddling my son tightly while imprinting the scent and feel of him forever in my memory. After a hectic day of cleaning and cooking and cleaning again,(it was Thanksgiving Day here in Canada) this is just what mommy needed to recharge her tired spirit. That single moment made it all worthwhile, once again reminding me that it is the simple things in life that are the most precious.
What are your most precious moments?
I just came across this, and I have to say I love it! For so long I have always dreaded the question, “So what do you do?” I wish I could have come back with an answer like this, for it is so true that a Mom has many different job descriptions. Instead, I would cower and say that I was “Just a stay-at-home mom”. Why did I feel inferior? Why did being a Mom not mean that I was an amazing person?
As much as so many people want to climb the corporate ladder, I think that I am making an amazing contribution to society by taking the time to raise intelligent, well balanced adults who will contribute to society in a loving, giving manner. So, I guess being a Mom is important! And, might I add, one of the hardest jobs in the world? But also one of the most rewarding.
So, cheers to all the moms in the world! We are amazing, strong, instrumental contributors to our families and society, and we should be proud of it.
- Mom Shaming (mommyneedssomebourbon.wordpress.com)
- The Stay at Home Mom and The Infamous “Why Don’t You Work?” (confessionsofacrockermom.wordpress.com)
I’d like to know how I became the personal servant of everyone in my family.
My nine-year old daughter was doing homework last night. When she made a mistake which needed correcting she turned to me and asked, “Mom can you get me an eraser?” She was convinced that this was my job. I proceeded to tell her that God gave her two feet, and she was perfectly capable to use them to walk over to go get an eraser herself. She actually got upset with me!
This is just one example of many that I have been noticing lately. “Mom, can you get the ketchup? Mom can I have a drink? (which means mom has to get it) Where is my knife/fork/spoon? The list goes on and on and on.
I have to face reality. I have been an enabler. I have let this go on. I have to step back and allow my kids to be more independent. I need them to be more independent. I find myself getting frustrated with the constant demands.
I guess I am still stuck in the toddler era, even though my kids are well past that stage. Granted, sometimes it is just easier for Mom to take care of things, so I won’t have to listen to the complaining, won’t have to nag them to do things right (aka Mom’s way), wont have to deal with the mess that is almost inevitable to ensue. But, with four people constantly relying on me (hubby equals kid number 4 at home) it does get tiring.
Sigh. I confess. I have control issues. I must let go so my kids can grow up. Otherwise they won’t see the need to be independent and won’t experience the self-confidence that comes along with independence.